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性教育专栏：一个商业和实用的观点

作者：Marc Ang , AIB2B的创始人

翻译：Lea Tian

加州政府对教育大纲的改变给我们呈现了一个严重的问题，这使我从三个角度观察这些变化。

作为一个社区组织者看来，这是一个有着严重影响我们加州社会架构的深远问题。

作为一个商人看来，我要写这篇文章的目的就是要简化行动方式和做教育公众的重要工作

作为一个少数裔族，这些变化与我的父母所倡导的一切背道而驰，他们有着强烈的中国价值观是为了把我培养成一个富有成效的社会成员。

问题到底出在了哪里？

我觉得这并不完全只是加州教育部的过错。这也不是那些编写令人诧异的教学大纲的人的错，或者是编写课程的特殊利益集团的错。这更不是民主党或共和党对特殊利益集团搅在一起的过错。这当然也不是教师工会的错。

这些都只是一些表象症状，但实际上根本病根是我们公众的自满。我们压根不关心孩子，也不参与在教育孩子的事业中，并且任由一个由特殊利益驱动的邪恶议程接管同时将我们孩子教育的内容塑造成一团糟。对我来说，为了使这一体制得到通过，优先解决一些问题，这就是为什么我的组织正在积极反映这一点。很多很多的问题已经被当成了常态，这使我感到唯一的反击方式就是去教育公众。这就是我付出如此大的努力来绞尽脑汁地写这篇文章的目的。

有误的具体内容是什么？

1. 年龄上的不合适。

学习数学、英语、外语、科学和历史这些学科才是我们孩子去学校上学的基本目的。在中学和128时期花太多时间关注带有性色彩的问题，或是在幼儿园和小学谈论 “这世界上有无数种性别” 的问题充其量只会分散他们的注意力，而最糟糕的是，这会剥夺我们孩子在生命中关键时刻的学习时间，并让甚至还没到青春期的他们认为性应当是最优先考虑的问题。像《 “你是谁?” 性别认同指南》(A Guide To Gender Identity)和《马龙·布鲁诺的一天》(A Day In The Life of Marlon Bruno)这类有明确的意图的书应当让我们的孩子看吗？孩子们读的书，难道不应该是《伊索寓言》这类能帮助孩子建立正确人生价值观和品格的书吗？

1. 医学上的不准确。

不管你如何看待这个问题，禁欲已经被作为一种选择而被淡化，然而另一方面鼓励年轻人的性行为并且淡化肛交或者堕胎导致的并发症带来的影响和后果都是不负责任的。

1. 剥夺了父母的权利。

父母不能选择不认同性别范围的教育。我与各个年龄段的孩子们都有交流，包括那些患有自闭症的孩子。我自己在某些方面进步很快，而在另一些方面则有所欠缺。有些孩子对于性教育还没有准备好，而家长最清楚这一点。强迫孩子们提前进行一些这样的谈话，并按照严格的时间表进行，会造成尴尬和潜在的敌意。

1. 剥夺了少数群体的权利。

在建立该框架开放的公共时期，除了英语之外，没有开放任何其他语言。移民家庭尤其被剥夺了公民权，这些父母工作努力，而且通常相信教育体系在教授正确的东西并培养孩子的潜力。然而在孩子们回家后他们才发现是被无休止的性别争论所吞噬。

我应当采取什么行动呢？

1. 自我教育

网上有很多资源可以帮助你寻找事实。例如“信仰与公共政策”组织（Faith and Public），亦或是“国会资源研究所”（Capitol Resource Institute）等正规机构会有大量专家和专业研究人员给你提供信息。草根组织也同样是一个很好的和家长交流的平台。希望大家能通过以上方式自学成才。

2. 建立一个会场

不管是一个只能装10个人的房间，一个能装下50人的社区中心或一个教堂，还是一个能装下200人的大礼堂，都是一个很好的动员场所。通过使用这些会场，我们能在这个基础上举办更多更好的活动。

3. 和AIB2B合作

请联系E-mail，asianindustryb2b@gmail.com 或者是致电 424-291-2102来了解详情和预订我们活动的席位。我的使命就是来帮助群众的。

4. 培养领袖

我们需要越来越多的普通人来带领这个潮流，我们将会通过榜样的力量和精心的栽培来培育出更多出色的领头人。

我应该避免什么样的陷阱呢？

1. 不要引起回声室效应

有热情是对的，然而我已经看到越来越多的因回声室效应而衰败的组织。回声室效应指的是人们逐渐接收到的都是和自己意见相似的新闻与朋友分享的信息，持不同观点的人也逐渐形成愈发封闭的小圈子，从而不接受外界信息。我们需要知道不是所有人的观点都在一个层次上的，我们需要做的只是陈述事实。

2. 注意你行动产生的后果

游行和抗议是一个社交和展现热情的好方式但是过度的偏激会造成完全相反的结果，请保持冷静和知道你所说的是不是对的。

3. 能量是有限的，不要成为“狼来了”

你应当知道抗议游行会用尽你所有的资源，如果一开始就进行这样的动员会让参与的人后劲不足。例如让小孩缺课静坐游行3次以上会被记为旷课处分并且被儿童保护服务机构调查。请把眼光放远一点并且了解你行为的后果。

我们举办的活动

我们将为中文社区和西语社区举办三次教育活动。这些活动将由信仰与公共政策学院的吉娜·格里森、国会资源研究所的凯伦·英格兰以及社区父母共同参与。将会有晚餐提供，由市议员、和刚卸任的前市长彼得·阿蒙森(Peter Amundson)主持和赞助。

1. 3月28日 -下午6时- Longo Toyota, El Monte龙戈丰田，艾尔蒙特 (普通话英语双语)

2. 4月2日- 下午6时- Family Life Church, Santa Ana家庭生活教会，圣塔安娜 (西班牙语英语双语)

3. 4月23日 -下午6时-在胡桃山宣教会 (三种语言，包括英语，普通话和西班牙语)

Op-Ed for Sex-Ed: A Business and Practical Viewpoint

By Marc Ang, President/Founder of Asian Industry B2B

Our curriculum changes are a major issue and I view it from three lenses.

As a community organizer, I see an issue that has a profound effect on the fabric of our Californian society.

As a business person, the goal of this piece is to simplify action items and do the important work to educate the public.  

As a minority, these changes have gone against everything my parents, with strong Chinese values, had stood for raising me to be a productive member of society.

The Problem:

This is not the sole fault of the California Department of Education. This is not the fault of those who wrote the shocking framework or the special interest groups writing the curriculum. This is not the fault of the Democratic party or Republican party for being beholden to special interests. This is not the fault of the teacher unions.

These are symptoms, but the root cause and ailment is the complacency of our public. We have allowed, through not caring and not being involved, a nefarious special interests-driven agenda to take over and shape the content in our children’s education into this mess. Let’s face it. In order for this framework to pass, our society must have prioritized certain matters as important, and now our institutions are reflecting it. These things have become normalized and the only way to fight back is to educate the public. Which is why I’m writing this piece and joining in efforts to sponsor and educate.

The Content:

1. It is age inappropriate.

Bottom line is our kids go to school to learn academics, such as math, English, a foreign language, science and history. Focusing too much time on sexually charged matters in middle school and 128 or unlimited genders in kindergarten and elementary school is at best, distracting and at worst, it robs our children from learning more important things at a crucial time in their lives and prioritizes sex and gender identity even before puberty. Should books like “Who Are You? A Guide To Gender Identity” and “A Day In The Life of Marlon Bruno” with transparent agendas, be the types of books kids read instead of Aesop’s Fables, or other books which teach important lessons about values and character?

1. It is medically inaccurate.

Downplaying abstinence and giving more airtime to glorify abortion, which no matter how you feel about the issue, and promoting anal sex and downplaying its risks and consequences is irresponsible.

1. It strips away parental rights.

Parents are unable to opt out of gender identity and gender spectrum education. I have worked with children from all levels, including those with autism. I myself was accelerated in certain areas and deficient in others. Some kids are not ready for this and a parent knows best. Forcing some of these conversations early and on rigid schedules to children fosters awkwardness and a potentially hostile environment.

1. The framework process has disenfranchised minorities.

During the framework’s open public periods, the framework was not made available in any other language but English. Immigrant families are especially disenfranchised, as parents work hard and are usually trusting the education system to be teaching the right things and nurturing the potential of their children. Instead, children are coming home consumed in debates about unlimited genders.

How To Act:

1. Educate Yourself.

There are many resources online to figure out the facts. Official organizations like Faith and Public Policy as well as the Capitol Resource Institute have trusted experts who provide researched information and facts. Grassroots groups are also a good forum to discuss with other parents. Once you are educated, you are ready to spread the word.

1. Secure A Venue.

Whether it’s a living room to host 10, a community center or church room that can host 50, or an auditorium that can host 200, secure the room and we will build an event around it.

1. Coordinate with AIB2B.

Please email asianindustryb2b@gmail.com or call 424-291-2102 to secure food and flyer sponsorship, as well as other support. I am dedicated to spreading the word.

1. Grow leaders.

There needs to be many more people leading the charge. Foster leaders by nurturing their potential and lead by example.

Pitfalls To Avoid:

1. Don’t fall into an echo chamber.

Passions are strong, but I have seen many movements fall into echo chambers. While we may be at a level of intensity, not everyone is at that level. Know your audience and stick to the facts.

1. Consider the impact of your actions.

While staging protests is a great way to meet people and be passionate, developing a reputation of being overly ideological can hurt the exact cause you are trying to promote. Be calm, measured and know your facts.

1. Energy is finite. Don’t be the boy who cried wolf.

Understand that if you protest too much and use up your capital early on, when the time comes, it may not be available. Consider the impact of sit outs, and understand that 3 unexcused absences will tag your child as truant and Child Protective Services may become an issue.  Pace yourself and consider the impact of the battle, and focus on the big picture.

Events:

We are throwing three educational events, for the Chinese community and for the Spanish community. These events will feature Gina Gleason from Faith and Public Policy and Karen England from Capitol Resource Institute, as well as community mothers and fathers. Dinner will be provided, sponsored by City Councilman and Immediate Past Mayor, Peter Amundson.

1. March 28 – 6 pm – Longo Toyota, El Monte (Bilingual with Mandarin)
2. April 2 – 6 pm – Family Life Church, Santa Ana (Bilingual with Spanish)
3. April 23 – 6 pm – On A Mission Church, Walnut (Trilingual with Mandarin and Spanish.